Published by Linda on 02 May 2008 at 01:22 pm
I, Too, Embrace Amanda
Let’s just make this Love The Paper Day. Joe just told you how much he loves it, leaping off of the wonderful essay at FourFour about it. And I love it, too.
I can’t really improve on what Joe and FourFour had to say, except possibly by adding that what I find so great about the show is the perspective it provides that you rarely see. Most of us were closer socially to the other kids on the paper than to Amanda, I’d guess — sort of in the middle somewhere, not friendless wads but not superstar athletes, invested in certain things with great enthusiasm but not necessarily publicly acclaimed for those things. And most kids in that position, unfortunately, fall victim at some point — not as often as these kids do with her, but at some point — to the trap of picking on somebody who’s EVEN LOWER on the totem pole than you are.
What I think the show does so well is demonstrate that these other kids aren’t really being mean to be malicious. They’re being mean socially. They’re being mean as a way of hanging out with their friends. Alex, who genuinely likes Amanda in many ways, is acting around other kids like he hates her because it’s a way to bond with them. I don’t think they’re trying to hurt her. They resent her for being in charge of them, and they find her annoying (I would, too), but mostly, they’re just indifferent to the idea that this would be legitimately hurtful.
(Oh, also hilarious? The way nerds never know they’re nerds, like when they were like, “Our incredibly cool group activity where we will mack on ladies and exclude the unclean is a Dave Matthews Band show.”)
And for kids who are in high school now, I think it’s potentially very powerful to be shown the juxtaposition of them all just hanging out and having fun, not really meaning any harm, and Amanda left at home on her own. She’s very resilient, but she’s aware of being left out. I think it’s a powerful image seeing them all having a great time together and then realizing that while they’re laughing about not answering when she calls, she’s awkwardly explaining to the camera that nobody’s answering the phone. It’s an interesting experiment in showing social consequences that usually remain hidden.
Anyway, it’s a really good show. Really good.
Jen on 02 May 2008 at 2:50 pm #
I was embarassingly excited when I read the headline — I was hoping you were already discussing Amanda from Survivor. Then I realized that Amanda from The Paper is even better. Not that I won’t be checking back to see what you thought of last night’s Survivor.
esme on 02 May 2008 at 3:36 pm #
I’ve only seen the first episode so far – the others are waiting on my TiVo for when law school finals/graduation are over next week. That said – even just that first episode made me want to call Amanda up, offer to be her friend, and tell her how much she’s going to love college if she can just hang in there. Not to say that I *entirely* identified with her, but… well, let’s just say I’m going to have words with MTV if they give me 13-years-after-the-fact PTSD.
rayvyn2k on 02 May 2008 at 7:46 pm #
This sounds like a show that is good but will be just to painful for me to watch. It was the same with “My So-Called Life” and “Freaks and Geeks”.
I would spend most of the program wincing or using the “last” button on my remote because I would be relating to her waay too much.
Even now, having read the entries in both links, my heart is breaking for Amanda…and my younger self.
meadespeed on 03 May 2008 at 9:17 pm #
I think FourFour said it best. MTV has a knack for showing teenagers as they really are. I can watch The Paper and feel like it is an accurate representation of what kids my age and generation are really like. The same goes for the True Lifes as well.
I do agree with the idea that it is a little uncomfortable to watch, probably because there are a few “Amandas” with whom I am familiar. It’s difficult to watch the senarios knowing that I have excluded people (not frequently, but once is enough); most likely causing them to feel similarly to Amanda. Wheather it is the shows intention or not, I still feel a little guilty.
Tara on 04 May 2008 at 5:13 pm #
What I love about the show, other than everything Linda said, is that it’s clearly produced by a bunch of Amandas too — witness the copy-editing of Alex and Alix’s conversation at the concert.
It’s such an awesome show!
Gina on 04 May 2008 at 8:28 pm #
You aren’t alone there Jen. But, I’m okay to wait for Survivor debrief, especially if there is no Amanda embracing in it.
I am going to go check out The Paper though.
Heidi on 05 May 2008 at 7:36 pm #
I spend a lot of time watching this show cringing for when Amanda watches it, too. My cold, black little heart just breaks for her.